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"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
- Maya Angelou (1928-2014)

THERE are two things I've learned about relationships.

The first is that people appreciate you appreciating them. The second is if you don't appreciate them you do have another chance: through apology.

These two things I've learned hinge on the Maya Angelou wisdom; people's memories can be woefully non-existent, but when it comes to how we as people experience emotion, we've got memories like elephants. The latent muscle memory of feelings is so potent that it doesn't matter how much time goes past; a bad experience is rarely 'forgotten' and traumatic experiences are etched deep in the soul.

Feelings are palpable, and if we think we'll get away with our nonchalant dealing with people we're sorely mistaken. They won't forget, just as we don't forget. We may know that our Bibles tell us to forgive, and we do wrestle with what we feel, but it won't change how we feel.

This is why apologies are so crucial.

The power in the apology is so cogent that even if we felt abused we're able to receive God's healing grace in order to be able to genuinely forgive. But where there's no apology, even a petty transgression leaves us with a non-trusting attitude toward the person who infringed.

Apology is the craft of relationship maintenance; a skill of wisdom that upholds the command, "Love one another as I have loved you."

An apology is a way of making good on a promise having blown it. Apology is restitution, it's understanding, and it's repentance - all rolled into one. Even if we made someone feel angry by the way we treated them we do have a comeback in us if we can say sorry, prove we understand, can set it right, assure them it won't happen again, and seek their forgiveness.

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It's incredibly important how we make another person feel in our interactions with them.

A fool has no regard for how they make another person feel, but a wise person takes stock and makes quick amends.

The transgression a person feels,
Either forestalls despair or heals,
Dependent on the whether there's a sorry,
Either adds to or reduces the worry.

In other words, an apology can heal at the depth of an injury caused by a transgression, but if no apology comes small matters become significant.

If they made you feel bad, don't give them another chance to make you sad, unless they tried to understand why you're made, and they tried to make you glad.

© 2016 S. J. Wickham.

Steve Wickham is a Baptist pastor who holds Degrees in Science, Divinity, and Counselling. Steve writes at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com.au/ and http://tribework.blogspot.com.au/

You hear how you should do this and you should do that. Heck, as a business coach, even I tell you what to do! (And one note about that... I always follow any suggestion or recommendation with "You have to do what works for you.")

Models, formulas, strategies, tools, worksheets, and the like are fabulous for helping you navigate the waters of business, but they're not meant to be so sacred that you can't deviate from them and follow your heart's wisdom.

If you're making decisions in your business that are based from your heart and passion for what you want in your business, then you are on your way to creating a business you love.

But if you're making decisions - or not taking action - out of fear or lack, then your business will probably not end up being one you love.

How do you know if you're making a decision from the heart or from fear? When you delve into "Why do I want or not want to do this?" - pay attention to the answer. Get a piece of paper, and write the possible decision that's on the table. Draw a line down the middle. On the left, write all the reasons why you should make that decision. On the right, write all the reasons you should not make the decision.

Then, look at your answers. If they sound like any of the following, then your decision is probably based on fear.

Those are all fear-based reasons. And they should never captain your ship.

If your answers sound like the ones below, then your decision is probably coming from your heart and deeper wisdom.

The more decisions you make from your heart and deeper wisdom, the happier you'll be, the fewer regrets you'll have, and the more successful your business will be.

From what place are you making decisions?

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Sodium silicate or water glass is a popular compound that serves varied purposes. While it works as an effective sealer, adhesive and deflocculant, the most pervasive usage is in metal mold making in the manufacturing industry.

This process involves binding sand to form molds before pouring molten metal into them. It may sound convoluted at the outset, however a simple procedure emerges from the details.

Sodium carbonate and silicon dioxide react when molten to form sodium silicate and carbon dioxide. The aqueous solution of water glass is used to bind sand particles to form solid molds or cores. It works as a high strength binder and forms strong and resilient molds.

You need fine grained sand (about 100 mesh should do) for this task. Measure the amount of dry sand and add 3% to 5% sodium silicate by weight (depending on application and foundry conditions). Mix it thoroughly with hand (or a muller for large batches) till all the grains of the sand are properly coated.

Pack the treated sand into the core or mold box of the desired shape. Any excess mixed sand can always be stored in an airtight container for later use. Insert a rod or spike to vent out the center of the mold. Multiple vents can be required for bigger molds. Thin cores need to be supported with wires.

Now it is time to activate the water glass so that it can bind the sand particles together. For this, it has to be exposed to carbon dioxide gas or esters. In fact, the gas has to pass through the whole core and that's the reason why we have made vents.

Apply carbon dioxide gas with a hose and nozzle or diffuser. Any low pressure source such as a standard brewery gas cylinder can be easily used for this purpose. Ensure that the gas passes through the entire core from one end to the other. For smaller molds you can also place the core mold in a plastic bag before filling it with the gas.

The required chemical reaction takes place and the sand cures almost instantaneously - within 5 to 20 seconds itself. The soldified core is now ready for use. Molten metal is later poured into these cores or molds. Once cured, the sand molds have to be broken apart (with heat or rods) to remove the metal casting.

This emerges as a very cost effective procedure of metal casting as almost any sand can be used for making the molds. It is generally washed, dried and sieved prior to use. Even sodium silicate is a low cost compound, thus adding to the gains. Moreover, it yields quick results and can be used at room temperature itself (no need for baking either). On the other hand, other binders like oil have to be heated while resins can prove more expensive.

Little wonder then that almost 70% of all metal castings are done in sand molds!

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We have come a long way since 1960 when the dead hand of the censor was lifted off the classic novel, Lady Chatterley's Lover. As a youngster, I must have got hold of a contraband copy and my youthful fingers trembled as I turned the novel's pages. I am not surprised that author; D.H. Lawrence first considered calling his novel Tenderness. The love making between Lady Chatterley and her gamekeeper lover Oliver Mellors was in fact sensitively portrayed. The language used was matter of fact without intending to shock. The censors were right to lift the ban.

Here was a golden opportunity in literature to treat the act of making love as the most pure and noble of human experiences. Instead, the floodgates opened to reduce this most precious of gifts, that of procreation, to the depths of degeneracy. Pornography has turned love-making into a display of semi-violent crude sex. It is now as far removed from romantic love as it is possible to be. The scenes portrayed are often perverted, depraved and in graphic form similar to biblical visions of hell. Few of us can relate such activity to our own lives.

What happened to the inspiring nature of lovemaking; the quickened heart of love at first sight; a shy flowering of mutual attraction; the chemistry between two people we know exists but cannot fathom. Is the love that grows to a point where a partner's life is more important than one's own still recognized? Pornography slammed its jackboot on the neck of mutual affection, togetherness, tenderness, shared spirits and ideals. Porn trampled on commitment, the concept of developing relationships through the most beautiful form of foreplay imaginable; the courting process. Pornography is what pig swill is to food. The quackery of mockery clubbed the world's romantic idealists and set out its stall to the most base of animal instincts in man.

True lovemaking is a carnival of living for its purpose is life. Pornography represents the death of spiritual and physical romance; it drives a stake through its life-giving purpose. It wasn't the removal of censorship that let loose the backed-up sewer of pornography that flooded over our lives. It was our inability to separate the highest form of romance from the most debauched and degenerate of sex. We are reminded of Elizabeth Browning's poem: How do I Love Thee? This beautiful poem is still voted Britain's most loved romantic poem. If the word beginning with the letter L was replaced with another four letter word beginning with F would that poem and many other sonnets of pure love have survived for five minutes let alone hundreds of years? That is the difference between animal rutting and romantic love: One lasts for a few minutes to leave a feeling of barrenness, the other lasts for centuries and leaves one with a sense of fulfillment.

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Football is fast paced and requires a lot of stamina and agility. When you play football it is very important that you wear the right kind of football shoes as they will directly impact your game. When you decide to buy football shoes you will find a huge variety to choose from, especially at an online sports portal. Therefore it becomes very important to be able to choose the right football shoes that compliment and improve your play. Here are some of the points that you should consider the next time you buy football shoes:

Feel the football

When you are selecting football shoes the most popular material is leather because of its high quality. But when you have to select the material of the football you have to ensure that you are able to actually feel the ball as you kick it or nudge it any direction. Also make sure that the material feels comfortable when you put the shoes on. Another factor that makes shoes comfortable to wear is that they allow for the air to easily circulate around your feet. The latest footballs shoes made from synthetic material are very good because they are made with the latest technology.

Flexible & Light

Imagine having to run around with really heavy shoes, would you be able to do it? Therefore when you have to select shoes for football check that they are light weight. Apart from being light weight they should also be flexible enough to be able to adjust according to the movement of the feet. But the toe or tip of the soccer shoes should be rigid so that you can shoot the ball effectively.

Comfortable

It is very important that the shoes should be comfortable to wear. It is very likely that you will be on your feet and wearing the shoes for a long time. And if the shoes pinch then there is really no point in getting those shoes, also checks the studs on the shoes are placed in the right place. Never compromise on the comfort for the sake of looks.

Changeable Cleats

When you play football you have to play on various surfaces and weather. So you may have to change the cleats according to the surface and weather. Being able to do this with the football shoes that you buy will be advantageous.

Budget

If the budget is not a concern for you then you can buy any shoes you want, even the most expensive. But we suggest that you select the best shoes at a reasonable rate. If you are looking for a deal on shoes for playing football, then we suggest that you buy football shoes online. These days you can really buy sports equipment online for any sport you want. If you are undecided then you can always ask for advice from the online store experts.

Football shoes are very important for a football player. So it is imperative to wear high quality shoes because it has a direct impact on your game. Here are some tips for you on how to buy football shoes online from an online sports shop.

Loneliness is a state experienced by everybody, even introverts. There is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone; a state of being by oneself, is actually healthy since everyone needs a little time away from others to plan, consider, and simply rest. When you feel lonely, it is an entirely different matter.

It is normal to feel lonely from time to time, but too much loneliness can be unhealthy or even dangerous. Many studies have associated feelings of loneliness and isolation to depression, mental illness, and even physical conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, and insomnia.You shouldn't allow yourself to feel lonely for prolonged periods of time. Here are things to do when you feel lonely; to make you feel healthier, less painful alone, and more integrated.

Join a Club

Join a club that deals in activity you have interest or talents in. Even the smallest town usually has at least some clubs. Maybe you enjoy chess and you would like to play with others to sharpen your skills. You can even consider joining a club dealing in something you've never tried before: wine tasting, pottery, writing, dancing etc. Joining a club is a good way to interact with others and try new things. You can even start your own if your area doesn't have any clubs that interest you. Someone else in the area is likely to share in the interest of your club.

Visit a Coffee Shop

These days, coffee shops are lined up everywhere, especially in larger cities. They are a great place to meet people and make contacts. While you sit there sipping your cup of espresso, compliment someone about their laptop, their purse, their tie, their shoes, etc. complimenting someone is a good way to start up a conversation and might just make you a new friend.

Try Caring For Others

Caring for others, even when done in small ways will help cure your own loneliness as well as someone else's. Caring for someone makes them feel more connected and useful to you. For example, you can serve as a teen mentor to help pass on knowledge and information to the next generation. It can be practical advice and information such as how to work a polynomial equation. Or giving life lessons like how to get over a broken heart.

Figure Out What's Missing In Your Life

When you feel lonely persistently, it may be a warning sign that you're missing something essential in your life. So, figure out what it is that you're missing. You may find that you isolate yourself, intentionally or by design. Or you may be working in a career that doesn't allow for much one-on-one human interaction. Or you don't have loved ones or friends around you can talk to. Take positive steps to correct those and such situations that make you feel lonely. You can join a dating site, obtain contact information of one of your preferred relative or friend you feel close to.

Something May be Making You Feel Lonely

Though introverts like their own company, but getting too much of it may make them feel lonely. You may be with someone who makes you feel lonely even when they're right next to you. Or your job, town or living space may be contributing to you feeling lonely.

Be Alert to Verbal and Non-Verbal Cues

Learn to connect and create communication with people by being alert to verbal and non-verbal cues. 90% of all communication is non-verbal; based upon eye contact, facial expression, body language, and unconscious gestures and motions. Look for these cues together with verbal indicators such as tone of voice, word choice, and overall projection to establish communication with someone. Consider people with positive, open body language. They carry themselves with their heads erect and make direct eye contact. When someone smiles to you, it could be an invitation to talk; be ready to smile back and start a conversation.

Take a Walk

This advice may seem disingenuous, but taking a walk has been proven to offer many great health benefits both for the body and the mind. Walking allows one to explore their town or area around them in a way a car simply won't. Take a different route than you usually would when taking a walk. Simply pick a direction at random and start to walk.

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Over the years, it is not unusual to amass many photos, mementos, and prints to liven up walls, the ledges, and mantels of the house. Nonetheless, with so some these pictures lying around can be hard to have the knowledge of what all to do with them; picture framing might not be cheap, but when pinned to the wall with thumbtacks, pictures and posters often appear disorganized and cluttered. Luckily, there are boundless possibilities when it comes to showing and framing your keepsakes. Here are four suggestions to get you started.

1. Collage Your Mess

Many people have boxes full sized family pictures they just do not understand what to do with. Why not breathe some life into the memories of your nearest and dearest by buying a bigger fashion of framework and making a collage that is creative? Much like scrap booking, picture collages are just restricted by your imagination. Use decorative tape, rubber stamps, ribbon, or glitter to tie your graphics together.

2. Time for Inspiration

By far one of the very eye-catching ways to display your favorite photographs, trinkets, and works of art mounted picture clock. This innovative decor thought includes putting 12 pictures that are framed in a circle on one of the walls of your home and installing a battery-controlled set of clock hands that can keep time around them. This amazing decorating theory works nicely in craft rooms, and you can use offices, studies; the clock as a way to keep track of the hour while being inspired by your favorite artworks, citations, or other pictures.

3. Frameworks are not Only for Photographs

Are you a little hoarder? Odds are you've a group of some form. Anything you collect, it is likely gathering dust in a drawer or cupboard, which makes it impossible to flaunt and difficult to access. Remember: picture framing is not merely for art! Add some style to your walls when you use frameworks as display cases for your collectibles.

4. Produce an Attribute Wall

For those who own numerous prints and pictures that you wish to show, why don't you dedicate one wall in your family room or entrance way to showcasing them? This picture framing technique makes the whole wall your canvas--best of all, it does not matter if the pictures change in size and shape, or that they are spaced unevenly. This strategy to design looks fantastic as you can value each photo separately as you ascend and descend the stairway when placed next to a stairway. You can also save cash by thrifting modest, frames that are uncommon.